I discovered today that even now, at my ripe old age of 31, I am learning and growing every day. I am drawing from experiences and changing with every breath. I walked into a work situation today, and knew that it was going to be a life changing moment for me. I recognized the circumstances, and as I stood there at the start of my visit, I knew in my core that this moment would be significant forever in my life. I would not have known that even a year ago in my career. I would have gone without recognizing the signs.
The benefit of this ongoing learning process - and I mean not only in my career, but in my personal life as well, is that I can take a step back more easily, assess the situation and take appropriate steps to make these moments as positive as possible. I act more rationally, leave with less regrets, and maximize my experiences.
I don't think I knew this in my 20's. I think I thought I knew everything. I thought I had the upper hand on life - had it all figured out. Now in my 30's, I realize that life is about growing, changing and learning. Constantly. Wonder what my 40's will bring....
Thursday, July 23, 2009
Thursday, July 2, 2009
**Eyes Full Of Disgust
Some days my kids look at eachother as if the other is the worst human being on the planet. Every time one so much as brushes by the other, the world practically explodes.
The funny thing is that they seem to mutually feel the same about one another on any given day. Either they get along famously, leaving the adult in the house glowing in the ability to do adult-needed things throughout the day, or they despise one another.
Perhaps they have a meeting at the start of the day to determine which it will be.
Today for example my daughter had a hissy-fit because "HE TOUCHED MY HELMET!" while bike riding. What am I supposed to say to that?!? He touched your helmet...aaaannnnddddd.......Oh! I see! He touched your helmet. I should definitely send him to his room for the rest of his life, never to be seen again, right?
One says a word, the other snaps back that it was used inappropriately. My son spits the words "you should know that", as my daughter spits back "how should I know, I'm only 5?!" And on we go on the downwards spiral. I've heard you should let them figure it out - fight it out, develop their sense of themselves, but if the situation is not interjected upon early on in the argument it gets UGLY. And I mean UGLY!
The other day I was on the phone (my cell) with a friend when they had an explosion over a skipping rope. They screamed so loud that they set off the glass break sensor on our alarm system. So on top of the screaming and crying there was the siren, then the home phone ringing (the alarm company calling to see who broke a window), me screaming over it all telling them to be quiet so I can hear on the phone....it was not our finest moment.
So all I ask it to be informed of the consensus of their meeting each morning - whether it will be a peaceful day or to prepare for war. I just need to know if I should drag along my earplugs and sedatives, or if I'll be okay without.
The funny thing is that they seem to mutually feel the same about one another on any given day. Either they get along famously, leaving the adult in the house glowing in the ability to do adult-needed things throughout the day, or they despise one another.
Perhaps they have a meeting at the start of the day to determine which it will be.
Today for example my daughter had a hissy-fit because "HE TOUCHED MY HELMET!" while bike riding. What am I supposed to say to that?!? He touched your helmet...aaaannnnddddd.......Oh! I see! He touched your helmet. I should definitely send him to his room for the rest of his life, never to be seen again, right?
One says a word, the other snaps back that it was used inappropriately. My son spits the words "you should know that", as my daughter spits back "how should I know, I'm only 5?!" And on we go on the downwards spiral. I've heard you should let them figure it out - fight it out, develop their sense of themselves, but if the situation is not interjected upon early on in the argument it gets UGLY. And I mean UGLY!
The other day I was on the phone (my cell) with a friend when they had an explosion over a skipping rope. They screamed so loud that they set off the glass break sensor on our alarm system. So on top of the screaming and crying there was the siren, then the home phone ringing (the alarm company calling to see who broke a window), me screaming over it all telling them to be quiet so I can hear on the phone....it was not our finest moment.
So all I ask it to be informed of the consensus of their meeting each morning - whether it will be a peaceful day or to prepare for war. I just need to know if I should drag along my earplugs and sedatives, or if I'll be okay without.
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