I ran into an ex boyfriend at East Side Marios tonight. Hubby, the kids and I were leaving the restaurant when he walked in. He was one of my significant significant others. I have had two or three other significant others - other than hubby. Confused yet? The point is, I was caught off guard - as anyone would be running into an ex. We all have them, we all dread the day we see them...it's natural. But as if running into him wasn't creepy enough, I had been told by some who had seen him more recently than I (which was 1996), that he is married to a girl who's first name differs from mine only by one letter, and she looks just like me. Well, they weren't kidding. She really does look like me.
I was not prepared for how it made me feel. It was such a weird feeling to be standing face to face introducing eachother to our kids. Kids that only exist because I broke up with him for hubby. Speaking to him, I flashed right back to highschool - as if I was right there. In that moment, I felt 18 again, sitting on a bench in the cafeteria sharing a Mr. Big and skipping class. I didn't expect the feeling to be so familiar.
Exes are exes for a reason - things didn't work out. We weren't the right match obviously, and I never looked back, never second guessed that, and am blistfully happy with my family - obviously, but I didn't expect it to feel so strange. Memories came back that hadn't entered my mind in over a decade...how he DJ'ed my sweet 16...I hadn't thought about my Sweet 16 in probably 15 years!
As we walked out of the restaurant, my five year old daughter said to me "Mommy, who was that?", and for a moment, I wondered how to sum up who that was in a few short words. The feat seemed impossible. I mumbled something like 'someone I knew in highschool', and she seemed happy with that, but wow, what a spectacular understatement that was!
Saturday, February 28, 2009
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
**Density
It really bothers me that I can't wrap my head around certain things. I consider myself to be a fairly smart, educated, experienced person, but there are a few things that just boggle my mind, and I just cannot seem to grasp the concepts.
The first one is football. There are large men, grunting a lot, bumping into eachother every few inches, and they all seem so happy. There's a ball and kicking - though I'm unsure of when it is appropriate to kick and when it is appropriate to throw - and big piles of large men on the middle of a field painted with numbers. I have had people attempt to explain this sport to me and it goes right over my head.
Honestly, I don't loose much sleep over not understanding football. It does bother me, however, that I don't understand much to do with finances and investments and the such. I have an RRSP, I have savings accounts, I contribute to them, but where my financial advisor takes my money to make it grow, that is the part that I don't get. There are mutual funds and stocks and bonds and whoknowswhatelse, and he may as well be speaking another language, because I don't get it. I hope he's not doing me wrong, but honeslty I wouldn't know (gee I hope he doesn't read this blog!)
The mechanics of cars is another thing that I feel upset that I don't understand. I take my car in, they tell me lots of things, and I nod and smile. I have only ever done regular maintenance on my cars - oil changes, brakes and tires - never anything else, and they seem fine! Do I really need new air filters and to have all my systems "flushed" as they tell me every time? My car seems pretty happy without those things...it never complains, doesn't appear to need flushing and to be truthful, I'm really too cheap to pay some greesy man to run dirty tap water through a hose and charge me $300!
So there are a few of my downfalls...don't fault me for them, don't laugh, and please don't tell my financial advisor or mechanic!! I didn't even get into the part of my brain that is missing when it comes to world geography...that is a whole other blog!
The first one is football. There are large men, grunting a lot, bumping into eachother every few inches, and they all seem so happy. There's a ball and kicking - though I'm unsure of when it is appropriate to kick and when it is appropriate to throw - and big piles of large men on the middle of a field painted with numbers. I have had people attempt to explain this sport to me and it goes right over my head.
Honestly, I don't loose much sleep over not understanding football. It does bother me, however, that I don't understand much to do with finances and investments and the such. I have an RRSP, I have savings accounts, I contribute to them, but where my financial advisor takes my money to make it grow, that is the part that I don't get. There are mutual funds and stocks and bonds and whoknowswhatelse, and he may as well be speaking another language, because I don't get it. I hope he's not doing me wrong, but honeslty I wouldn't know (gee I hope he doesn't read this blog!)
The mechanics of cars is another thing that I feel upset that I don't understand. I take my car in, they tell me lots of things, and I nod and smile. I have only ever done regular maintenance on my cars - oil changes, brakes and tires - never anything else, and they seem fine! Do I really need new air filters and to have all my systems "flushed" as they tell me every time? My car seems pretty happy without those things...it never complains, doesn't appear to need flushing and to be truthful, I'm really too cheap to pay some greesy man to run dirty tap water through a hose and charge me $300!
So there are a few of my downfalls...don't fault me for them, don't laugh, and please don't tell my financial advisor or mechanic!! I didn't even get into the part of my brain that is missing when it comes to world geography...that is a whole other blog!
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
**Randomness
This was originally a challenge on facebook - to list 25 random things about yourself. I had gotten the request multiple times but never had the time or energy to do it. Once I did, I actually found it kinda fun, so I thought for all that hard work I would post it here too! Enjoy!
1. Pineapple makes my tongue tingle but I eat it anyway because it's yummy.
2. When I had my first baby I felt angry that no one except Oprah told me how tough it would be the first few months.
3. The way I drive scares most people, but I am always safe.
4. My right leg is much larger & more muscular than my left because I drive a lot for work.
5. One of my favorite things to do is sing harmony while someone else sings the melody with pretty much any song.
6. My daughter resembles me to a crazy extent - even little things like pesky eyebrow hairs that point in a different direction than all the rest are exactly the same on both of us.
7. Both teeth on either side of my front middle ones are fake. I was born with "peg" teeth which my grandmother had too and I am afraid my daughter will have them!
8. Every night when I get into bed I sigh and say outloud "I love my bed".
9. I am always feeling cold when everyone else is hot and vice versa.
10. I cry at pretty much anything. Even things that others don't find sad.
11. I am very happy that I have managed to balance my young family with still being able to go out and have fun for myself.
12. I am deathly afraid of spiders. I would rather find a snake or mouse in my house than a spider.
13. I love cottage life which seems uncharacteristic of me.
14. I worked in a pet store all through high school and college and used to touch snakes, lizards, crickets, feed baby parrots by syringe, but had someone move the tarantulas to the top shelf where I couldn't see them at the start of every shift.
15. Whenever someone bakes something like lasagna or brownies, I love to eat the corners.
16. I like to burnt cheese.
17. I really want to try dim sum but don't know what anything on the menu is so I can't order.
18. I hate being late for anything - to the point that I am always chronically early.
19. I have an odd knack for remembering numbers - phone numbers I have dialed only once, my credit card numbers, airmiles number, even library card number. Weird.
20. I have a "list" like on Friends only there are more than 5 people on it.
21. I have eaten the same thing for breakfast for the last 7 years - one egg, one slice of whole wheat toast and a coffee.
22. I love gadgets. My cell phone (aka mini computer) and my roomba vacuum give me an odd amount of pleasure.
23. I write like a doctor. Few people can read it, though it seems crystal clear to me!
24. I like getting to know random things about other people.
25. I am, and always have been, extremely flexible and can still easily do the splits.
1. Pineapple makes my tongue tingle but I eat it anyway because it's yummy.
2. When I had my first baby I felt angry that no one except Oprah told me how tough it would be the first few months.
3. The way I drive scares most people, but I am always safe.
4. My right leg is much larger & more muscular than my left because I drive a lot for work.
5. One of my favorite things to do is sing harmony while someone else sings the melody with pretty much any song.
6. My daughter resembles me to a crazy extent - even little things like pesky eyebrow hairs that point in a different direction than all the rest are exactly the same on both of us.
7. Both teeth on either side of my front middle ones are fake. I was born with "peg" teeth which my grandmother had too and I am afraid my daughter will have them!
8. Every night when I get into bed I sigh and say outloud "I love my bed".
9. I am always feeling cold when everyone else is hot and vice versa.
10. I cry at pretty much anything. Even things that others don't find sad.
11. I am very happy that I have managed to balance my young family with still being able to go out and have fun for myself.
12. I am deathly afraid of spiders. I would rather find a snake or mouse in my house than a spider.
13. I love cottage life which seems uncharacteristic of me.
14. I worked in a pet store all through high school and college and used to touch snakes, lizards, crickets, feed baby parrots by syringe, but had someone move the tarantulas to the top shelf where I couldn't see them at the start of every shift.
15. Whenever someone bakes something like lasagna or brownies, I love to eat the corners.
16. I like to burnt cheese.
17. I really want to try dim sum but don't know what anything on the menu is so I can't order.
18. I hate being late for anything - to the point that I am always chronically early.
19. I have an odd knack for remembering numbers - phone numbers I have dialed only once, my credit card numbers, airmiles number, even library card number. Weird.
20. I have a "list" like on Friends only there are more than 5 people on it.
21. I have eaten the same thing for breakfast for the last 7 years - one egg, one slice of whole wheat toast and a coffee.
22. I love gadgets. My cell phone (aka mini computer) and my roomba vacuum give me an odd amount of pleasure.
23. I write like a doctor. Few people can read it, though it seems crystal clear to me!
24. I like getting to know random things about other people.
25. I am, and always have been, extremely flexible and can still easily do the splits.
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
***Hmmmmm
Hmmmmmmmm....I wonder if blogs can go dormant and be removed from the blogger site if you don't post in a certain amount of time........
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